I like the chill, let's get to know everyone first type of sex party, but I also like that bend me over the desk, I don't know who you are, please God take me, Daddy type of sex party. Being bi, I like to attend numerous sex events that fall on both ends of the spectrum (and everywhere in between). Obviously, the two sex parties I described above are very different. The whole "schtick" of the event was that these men could not see who they were having sex with.ĭepending on your sexual interests, this either sounds incredibly hot or downright terrifying. I even went to a party at a club in Amsterdam where all the bottoms (receptive anal sex partners) agreed to bend over and be blindfolded. Then I've been to sex parties where asking to touch is actually frowned upon, since it "takes people out of the moment." These parties are typically cruisier, black-lit, gay sex parties. If someone is being a creep, they get kicked out. They have moderators you can talk to if you feel unsafe or if someone is harassing you. These parties are typically for people of all genders, and there's an emphasis on consent and creating a warm, welcoming space. I've been to parties where before getting down to business, all the guests sit in a circle, say their names, sexual orientations, pronouns, and what they're hoping to do sexually that evening, even specifying with whom. The thing is, each sex party is drastically different, and therein lies the problem.
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They can indeed be described, and they should be for newbies looking to get into the scene. While I did feel woefully underprepared at my first official group sex event, that's not because sex parties are mysterious and ineffable.
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"Nothing I can say will prepare you properly for it," were the exact words I was told before heading to my first sex partyat the ripe young age of 24.